I am so confused and didn't know where else to go with such a tough
decision! I will just give you the main details and maybe you could help
me out.
I have been married for almost 2 years to a perfect husband. I trust him
with all my heart. He does almost everything a wife wants. We do have
some difference in some areas in our marriage but other than that all is
perfect. My husband and I also share 3 children together.
My husband has a good friend I will call 'Jim'. I have known Jim ever
since I met my husband. About 2 years ago I started feeling an
attraction towards him but never revealed it to anybody. Some time ago,
we were all out together and Jim and I both had too much to drink and
began to discuss this mutual attraction. After that night nothing more
was ever really said.
Last weekend, we were all hanging out again and Jim and I started
talking about our feelings again. Saying that maybe we should just sleep
together and then maybe the whole thing would go away since we will
know what it would be like, (to make matters worse, he is also married
with children). We continued to joke about this throughout the night.
Yesterday he stopped by to see my husband but he wasn't here so we
started talking. We discussed how if nobody knows, then nobody can get
hurt. We also discussed consequences and many other things. I know it
would be immoral for me to cheat on my husband, but what do I do with
these feelings?
I am not a bad person, I have never been a cheater! We made plans for a
'date' today while my husband is with his family. The more I have been
running this through my head the more I realize how much is at stake.
Should I do it once and then maybe that will kill the curiosity? Or just tell Jim that we just can't do it?
I guess I know what I SHOULD do, but honestly tell me what you would do in this situation.